Scary Thoughts: #speakthesecret

  The Secrets Women Keep   This thread is amazing. Needs to be turned into a list and handed out to expecting moms by every ob/gyn. They tell women everything under the sun about what to expect for 9 months; why not this?! I think it’s wonderful you’re making this list for new moms. It […]

Authentic Suffering: The Missing Link?

A CAUTIONARY NOTE TO THERAPISTS WHO THINK THEY CAN/SHOULD TREAT PREGNANT AND POSTPARTUM WOMEN IN DISTRESS WITHOUT SPECIALIZED TRAINING This past weekend, I was fortunate to speak at Postpartum Support International’s (PSI) annual conference, whose clear and inspirational mission is posted on their website: “The mission of Postpartum Support International is to promote awareness, prevention and treatment of […]

Sitting With Suffering

While sitting with palpable pain in therapy, I am often moved to find some tool, some intervention, some words of comfort, to ease the suffering. When I’m lucky, I find a way to express hope, in some form or another. But today, I could not find the hope. So I sat with the pain. I […]

Suicide is a Scary Word

Suicide is a scary word and if you work in the mental health field it is a word that conjures up panic in the hearts of dedicated professionals who are trying hard to support, enlighten, inform and protect individuals who might be tormented or tempted by the distorted lure of an end to their suffering. […]

Make a Pledge for Selfless Support  

    Does your relationship need a booster shot? Are you taking good care of your self? Are you taking good care of your partner? Here’s a brief primer that can help kickstart your connection. Selfless support refers to the energy and attention we place on our partner. It’s about him. Or her. Not me. Selfless […]

5 Things New Mothers Can Do To Feel Better. Right now.

You do not feel like yourself. You wonder if this is what being a new mother feels like. You are worried all the time and find it’s hard to take a deep breath. You believe that if you tell anyone how you are feeling they will either dismiss it as normal or tell you that […]

Tokens of Affection: Are You Ready?

Most of us married folk think we are right, much of the time, and we believe we know what is best for us and our marriage. This is especially true for women, who generally take the plunge when it comes to initiating marital repair tactics. However, what is true all of the time, without fail, […]

This is What You Should Do if You Think You Might Have Postpartum Depression

You’ve recently had a baby. You are more than 3 weeks postpartum. You do not like the way you are feeling. You wonder if you are too anxious or too depressed. Your family, friends and healthcare provider have tried to reassure you, but you wonder if they really understand how bad you feel. You worry that […]

PREFACE

My clients have gotten so much younger. Not so long ago we were all the same age. We were comrades in parallel worlds, raising our babies together, in a manner of speaking, navigating the ebbs and flows of new motherhood. I would observe through a therapeutic lens, and later reflect on the relevance to my […]

Pregnancy Loss and Depression

It’s hard for most women to imagine anything worse than experiencing an unsuccessful pregnancy. But 15-20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage and the loss associated with this crisis can be devastating. Pregnancy, even at its best, can be a time of uneasiness and worry. Research tells us that a woman is most at risk for […]

A Note to Dads: Could You Be Depressed?

It’s possible that you too may be experiencing symptoms of depression. A study by Paulson in 2006 reported that 10% of all new dads experience symptoms of a clinical depression after the birth of a baby. That’s one out of every ten dads! Not only is it more common than we ever knew but if […]

SSRIs and Pregnancy. New Research. New Worries?

    There is new reserach on the use of SSRIs during pregnancy that is unsettling. This study reports that the use of antidepressants during pregnancy may increase the risk of having a child with autism. Tons of folks are understandably reaching out to us for clarification and reassurance. I am writing this only to say that […]

BE HAPPY: (How is that working for you?)

  Seriously. Does that make you feel better? Does it help you feel in control of your life? Does it inspire you to walk down the street grinning at strangers? Does it fill your heart with unbridled joy? Does it make you feel grateful and warm your heart? OR, Does it make you feel inadequately […]

Postpartum Depression: Whose Problem is it?

Postpartum depression and anxiety  are getting tons of attention in the media. From catastrophic accounts of misdiagnosed psychotic episodes, and an increase in state legislative action, to emerging research, as well as an explosion of passion-driven personal narratives from women who have recovered. All of this translates into greater awareness and activity in research, in clinical […]

I’m not ashamed. I had a miscarriage.

There’s something that women everywhere need to talk about.  It’s time, time to bring it out from its hidden place of shame and solace.  It is time to make this mainstream. Miscarriage. A shocking 25% of woman will experience such a loss.  One in four women.  That is a devastating number.  Do you know anyone […]

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