Make a Pledge for Selfless Support  

    Does your relationship need a booster shot? Are you taking good care of your self? Are you taking good care of your partner? Here’s a brief primer that can help kickstart your connection. Selfless support refers to the energy and attention we place on our partner. It’s about him. Or her. Not me. Selfless […]

Tokens of Affection: Are You Ready?

Most of us married folk think we are right, much of the time, and we believe we know what is best for us and our marriage. This is especially true for women, who generally take the plunge when it comes to initiating marital repair tactics. However, what is true all of the time, without fail, […]

Pregnancy Loss and Depression

It’s hard for most women to imagine anything worse than experiencing an unsuccessful pregnancy. But 15-20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage and the loss associated with this crisis can be devastating. Pregnancy, even at its best, can be a time of uneasiness and worry. Research tells us that a woman is most at risk for […]

Pay Attention to Your Marriage

  Fathers are at risk for depression and anxiety after the birth of their baby.  If their wife has PPD, husbands are most at risk as she begins to recover. As noted in THIS ISN’T WHAT I EXPECTED: “As you continue to recover and resume normal activities, an interest­ing phenomenon may occur. You may find […]

Tokens of Affection: A Review

Many thanks to Kathleen Kelley, Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner in Oregon, for submitting this review of Tokens of Affection. I’m thrilled to get the message out to families who can use the support. Thank you, Kathleen, for supporting my work and for making such a difference with the work that you do at your […]

A Little Kindness Does Go a Long Way

Published in PsychologyToday.com on September 29, 2014 by Karen Kleiman, MSW, LCSW in This Isn’t What I Expected It’s not always easy to be nice when we think we are right and our partner is wrong. When feelings are hurt or needs are not met in a relationship, people tend to express themselves more impulsively, […]

Keys to a Happy Marriage After PPD

            A BRIEF SUMMARY  Token Tools for ESTEEM 1)       Get past recent anger. He wasn’t there for me. She wasn’t there for me. This may be true. But it’s getting in the way. “Get over it” has never been an acceptable psychological directive, but in realistic terms it works as an intervention for […]

Token #6 Token of Expression

Token of Expression Inventory Read each statement and check the ones you feel are true for you. Put a circle around the boxes which reflect those you need to work on. I am able to express myself with clarity, with words and without words, without provoking my partner. I feel confident that my partner understands […]

Token #5 Token of Sanctuary

Token of Sanctuary Inventory Read each statement and check the ones you feel are true for you. Put a circle around the boxes which reflect those you need to work on. My partner and I have one or more places that we feel comfortable openly discussing hot topics that may be difficult or upsetting to […]

Token #3 Token of Compromise

Token of Compromise Inventory Read each statement and check the ones you feel are true for you. Put a circle around the boxes which reflect those you need to work on. When disagreeing, I am comfortable letting others be right. In instances when I truly believe I am right, I can still see my partner’s […]

Token #2 Token of Collaboration

  Token of Collaboration Inventory Read each statement and check the ones you feel are true for you. Put a circle around the boxes which reflect those you need to work on. It is easy for me to trust and accept my partner’s opinions and judgments. My partner and I work well on projects together. […]

Token #1 Token of Esteem

Today’s Token is Esteem (self & relationship). See how you do. Token of Esteem Inventory Low self-esteem is associated with isolation. Put another way, the better you feel about yourself, the more likely you are to engage in meaningful relationships. This inventory will help you identify feelings and behaviors that may contribute to your self […]

Reclaim Your Marriage with Tokens of Affection

  If you have not yet decided, please join us at the PSI conference in June in North Carolina. Here are details of the conference. I will be speaking about how postpartum depression impacts a marriage and how couples can renew their connection after the fallout. Based on the concepts of my newest book, Tokens […]

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