Yikes!


File this under “You’ve Got to be Kidding”

I was searching Amazon and found this gem. I thought, nice title (don’t like the cover picture). Okay, I rarely express personal opinions on this blog but I’m not known for my tactfulness so…

As Mother’s Day approaches and we all brace for the annual Hallmark-driven, sanctimonious celebration — (Why hasn’t anyone figured out yet that the one thing most mothers would REALLY want for mothers day is to be left alone and not have to pack and dress and worry and rush to brunches, bar-b-ques or other imposed family rituals to honor us? But I’m too cynical and I digress), — I feel the need to comment on this book.

As a disclaimer, I must put forth that I write this with hesitation. I, too, know what it’s like to write a book only to cringe when I read a negative review or worse, hear from a disappointed reader who misunderstood my intentions and made comments that inaccurately reflected my writing. That being said, I welcome any rebuttal to this post.

Michael Salzhauer, MD is a board certified plastic surgeon in Florida. He wrote this book for the 4-8 year old group of children who may be witnessing the “transformation” of their mother during the process of plastic surgery.

I have not read this book.

I presume the book refers to both elective procedures and those that may be medically indicated. Regardless, the ONLY reservation I have is the title of the book. Was mommy beautiful before the procedure? Is she only beautiful after the procedure? And the Cinderella cover with magical reference to the perfect mother is, at its best, politically incorrect. To repeat, I have not read this book, and I’m hoping the author talks about how beautiful mommy is before she has the plastic surgery.

As clinicians and mothers, we constantly find ourselves standing firm against societal pressures to conform to expectations of perfection. My books, my work, my passion has always focused on helping women accept who they are, flaws and all. I cannot help but wonder what message we are giving our children if we teach them at age 4 that whatever they don’t like about themselves, they can change and only then they will be beautiful? This is not a message I would like my children to have.

If you have read this book, please correct me if I am wrong.

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