When your partner indicates (or when you perceive) a genuine or urgent need to communicate, with a look, a word, a cry, a motion, an utterance, or an outright request, you should:
1) Stop what you are doing.
2) Pay attention.
3) Respond with an expressed and loving intent to address or postpone.
Remember this, practice this, share this with your partner.
Tokens of Affection (Routledge, 2014)