Many thanks to Kathleen Kelley, Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner in Oregon, for submitting this review of Tokens of Affection. I’m thrilled to get the message out to families who can use the support.
Thank you, Kathleen, for supporting my work and for making such a difference with the work that you do at your end of the world. Some of my very favorite people in the world are right there by your side. 😉
Tokens of Affection: Reclaiming Your Marriage after Postpartum Depression is my new favorite book for couples seeking help with their relationship.
It provides an invaluable set of concepts and tools, using the metaphor of “tokens” that can be given to each other on behalf of the relationship, to help couples reconnect in the wake of postpartum illness. Tokens for essential aspects of the marriage partnership, such as esteem, collaboration, compromise, selflessness, sanctuary, expression, tolerance and loyalty, are described as actions each partner can take on behalf of the relationship. This creates a pathway back to the connection that may have been damaged by the trauma of postpartum depression.
Indeed I find this book so useful, that I would not hesitate to recommend it to couples whose marriage had suffered in the wake of any trauma, as well as couples just starting out on the journey of their lives together, in order to learn how to care for themselves and their relationship when the normal stresses and strains of married life arise. I also recommend this book to couples who are struggling not with the aftermath of postpartum illness, but simply with the disconnection or neglect of the marital relationship that often results from the extreme busyness, fatigue and differing needs that are inevitable when a helpless infant is added to a family.
Thank you once again to Karen Kleiman and Amy Wenzel for this valuable addition to the postpartum and marriage literature.
Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner
Perinatal Mental Health Specialist